Week11’s #52snapshots prompt asks for a list of what you still feel guilty about, and then choose one to write about.
My list included unfriending someone from Facebook. Several years later, I learned from Facebook that she had died. I also listed leaving my mother’s hospital room at 2 am and getting a call three hours later at home that she had passed. I feel guilty for having left her all alone. But what I chose to write about was not understanding when an employee back in the days when I worked in telecommunications received a cancer diagnosis. I still expected her to meet deadlines and manage her team. Her husband, who worked in finance, publicly berated me. I wish I had had some kind of management training to learn how to handle such situations. By the time my own cancer diagnosis rolled in during the summer of 2014, I had long left Corporate America and joined the academy as an adjunct English professor teaching creative writing and pursuing a master’s in history. I told my professors about my diagnosis and when radiation treatment started so they’d understand if I showed signs of fatigue in class and assignments.
The employee left the company at some point. I don’t know what happened to her. I don’t remember the exact nature of her diagnosis or its stage. But wherever she is, I want her to know I apologize for my insensitivity.
What do you still guilty about? Make a list. Choose one item and write about it.
I didn’t know that. There are so many things we don’t know how to handle.